6 Signs A Home Might Be "The One"
You might have heard that saying about the number of fish there are in the sea – the sea of prospective dates and mates. The same goes for properties on the market.
Even when the market heats up as it's doing now, it's not uncommon for a buyer to visit 10, 20 or even more apartments before finding the one they want to make their home or investment.
These numbers can be daunting, but even the most particular buyers, even buyers who are frustrated by how many places don't seem like the right fit, can take heart in this one truth of dating that also applies to your home search: You only need to find ONE.
So the next question is this: how do you know which fish is the one you should take home – I mean, make your home? To help, here are six signs that a given home you're viewing might in fact be "The One":
1. You instantly feel possessive about the property.
When you walk into 'The One' no matter how long you've been searching, you'll get a noticable surge of energy to do whatever it takes to make that home yours. If you're at an Open House and other buyers are viewing the place, you'll start to feel competitive. If you're at a private viewing, you'll start to talk numbers and offer logistics. For that matter, some buyers start making calls to their financial planners, accountants, and architects from the apartment – during the first viewing!
If you walk through a place and leave with your heart or mind set on making it yours, it might be "The One."
2. You start to see its flaws as adorable quirks.
A fire station 10 feet from the bedroom window? Next door neighbor that practices opera at 2:00 a.m.? Okay – I exaggerate! But if you find yourself viewing a property with traits that you would normally deem undesirable or as deal-killers, yet you like the place so much that you instinctively compile a mental list of reasons those traits just don't matter, you might have found "The One."
Smart buyers should be aware of a syndrome some call "Pottery Barn Psychosis," whereby the aesthetics of a wonderfully staged home with amazing appeal can hypnotize a buyer. This syndrome renders buyers blind to the negative property features, which would be glaring or grave concerns if the place weren't so cute. It's fine to make a conscious decision that the pros of a place outweigh its cons, and even to consciously re-rank your priorities in light of a particular property's advantages.
But throwing reasonable guidelines for your home out of the window because it's cute is about as savvy as doing the same with your dating prospects – not a setup for success.
Buyers can avoid falling victim to Pottery Barn Psychosis (and the Buyer's Remorse that often follows suit) by writing down your absolute musts and deal-breakers before you ever step foot in a single property – and by revisiting this document before you make an offer and again before you remove your contingencies.
If you find yourself viewing a home with traits that you would normally deem undesirable, yet you like the place so much that you instinctively compile a mental list of reasons those traits just don't matter, you might have found "The One."
3. You immediately envision your own family, furniture, decor, daily activities or remodeling choices in/to the home.
If you find yourself, during a property viewing, measuring the living room with your footsteps to be sure your favorite sofa will fit, discussing how to configure the kitchen, or in your mind's eye photoshopping a given property to insert your bedroom set, your dining table and favorite wall hangings into place it's entirely possible that the home you're viewing could be "The One" for you.
4. You lose interest in seeing other homes.
When you find "The One," your interest in seeing other homes dissipates, instantly – no matter how many homes you've seen or how long you've been house hunting.
5. The bathroom and kitchen don't disgust you.
We humans are born with only two fears in life: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. By about eight months old, we start to acquire new fears. Chief among them: the fear of other people's kitchens and bathrooms.
Other people's kitchens and bathrooms come under a lot of scrutiny. So, if you happen to find yourself falling in love with a home's river rock shower floor or drooling over the sleek countertop or farmhouse sink, that's a sign that you're falling head over heels with a home that might just be "The One."
6. The money, time and energy spent feels worth it.
Home buying can be an expensive, time consuming proposition. Maybe you've made many sacrifices in order to save for a down payment. If you view a home that make all of those sacrifices suddenly feel like the best, most worthwhile decision ever? You, my friend, might have found "The One."